ExPains

Life, liberty, and the pursuit of alcohol

I like going out and drinking just like some percentage of Americans. There’s something nice about drinking some alcohol and forgetting some of the real world pressures and situations that need to be dealt with on a regular occasion. I’m very understanding that drinking can be a part of life that people don’t want to miss.

My ex decided that last week she would stay out drinking until 4am, which is great — except when she’s suppose to be getting visitation at 10am and still needs to sleep. So who gets punished for this? It’s not me, it’s not her, it’s our kid. Maybe I should go back to saying “my kid”. I know that it always pisses her off when I say that, but the truth is that she’s not really earning the moniker of “mom” but maybe more like “mother….”

I’m not in a position to say much, I’m lucky that I have my kid as much as I do. And if she’s willing to screw away precious time with my kid because she needed to party on the weekend, maybe I should just be happy that my kid looks foward to seeing me more that their mom.

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My ex-wife has balls

My daughter needed shoes - her flip-flops got a flat I guess…she asked her mother to buy her some- but since she was coming to my house for the week of break - the ex told her to tell ME to buy them for her!!!!

The NERVE that this person has!!! She has some balls to be telling her that!!!
On TOP of my $860 + a month in support, she makes OVER $46K a year alone!!!!
She rents for cheap, lives across from her mother, no car payment, and buys my kids clothes at a second hand store!!!

I know many of you have had this happen- or are going thru it now…the only thing I wish I could do with this is to make her accountable - with the money- to make her put a percent away for their college…or to state where the money is going- certainly NOT for my kids!!!

So since the dee-vorce…I have had my care repo’d, had to file BK, and sold many of my belongings to make the attorney bills…I’m living in an over-priced town house that is nothing fancy, sharing half the rent and bills…

I have just enouogh left over after this for gas in my car…I do buy groceries for my kids when I have them, and small things, shoes, shirts, etc…but I am strapped for cash!

I’ve thought about taking on a second job- but the x will get a percentage of it, and I would not see my kids much if I did!

It is a dam shame the way fathers are allowed to be treated !!! We don’t “owe” anything to the women we marry- they are not entitled to our life savings!!! They too can work!!

It is about the kids- not about taking the money and buying cars adn clothes- what a joke!
My kids are old enough to “see” what is really going on- and that makes them want to live with me that much more!

That day is coming soon- but for now my hands are held to the fire…
…these embers will cool…

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Money, money, money

So I had my kids week on/week off for 5 weeks during the summer break…so however uneven that is- the ex gets them 7 or more I get them just a hair over 5 weeks…

Lets add fuel to this story:
I STILL have to pay child support while I have them- the expenses I inccur include:

The ex gets free money during this time as she doesn’t have them a lot- but that makes no difference to the courts! I found had I gotten the even 6 - 7 weeks I would be eligible for a break from paying child support during that period…Which would allow me to buy my kids something nice if I wanted to, or go somewhere, etc…but no…

So I called my ex recently asking that even though the court papers say that I get them certain times, to see if she would let me see MY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD children more often…NOTHING about money or anything….

Guess what I got as a response?
……

CRICKETS!!!!!!!!

So I don’t know what to do- my kids are telling me that they want to see me more- I have to tell them that I am trying…that is all I can do…

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Toys

My kids had their toys out on the living room floor- they had lincoln logs, jets, cars and planes setup like a whoel town… My future ex comes home and gets all naggy- and then starts getting pizzed that they have them on the floor- she steps on some- then goes off- yelling and goes up stairs…

This bothers me because I feel sorry for HER kids - they won’t be able to play with any toys- unless it is Ok with her!

So they started to clean up- but I told them to leave some in there - so they can play today - not sure what is going on with her!!!

The kids were thinking Whiskey Tango Foxtrot!!! Unreal!!!

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Apples

I was out playing with my kids last night-…

I have to bring them back tomorrow at 5:30 and that really REALLY stinks!!!

Just a couple more weekends and then I don’t get to see them again until every other weekend.

This is so not fair- the leagal system makes it so that children and their fathers become distant- then they wonder WHY there is so much crime!!!!!

These judges are old, and predujice- they need to be replaced!!! Lawyers are so not cool either!!! But in my case the ones I’ve had were totally worthless!!!

Here you have a father who is BEGGING to see his kids more, but the court REFUSED to let me-!!!!
My local state’s justice system- WAY TO GO!!! On a scale of 1 to 10- I would say 0. This is the LAST place a person can get rights!

I wish I could go ask that judge one last question…I would ask him if he likes apples…
Then if he replied “yes I do like apples”…I would say ” GO FUCK YOURSELF!! How do like THEM apples!?”

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Past, present, and future

I’ve been in love before. I’m in love right now. I’ll be in love in the future.

I think that whenever someone is in love, they think that they are in the most love ever. It’s a really simple thing for someone to think. I know, I think that I’m in love with someone the most ever. The painful part is that the love of my lifetime says she feels the same but doesn’t act accordingly. That’s not usually a good thing. In my case, it’s not.

So now I’m sitting here in front of a keyboard with a lot of emotions going through my mind thinking about things that I wouldn’t normally. It’s a bad thing. I would tell you all about the girl I’m in love with, but then you would love her too and that’s not going to help either of us.

I’m feeling depressed. Sad. Heart ache. I think that this is worse than when I got a divorce, at least in the divorce I felt like there was life ahead of me and a new future to encounter and experience.

I’m going over to Retard Media for a tour of the web laugh break.

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X-games

I plan on taking a vacation to go see my brother down in the southern Missouri state while I have my kids…I will have to notify the ex as it is the legal thing to do- as she has to notify me of taking the kids out of state. Well, I guess the ex got wind of this before I even made solid plans and she stated to my kids that she may not LET me take them out of state!

This is a game of con-TROLL…as long as she THINKS, FEELS, and WIN’S power over everything- all is good in her warped world!

She feels like she needs to be in control — of everything!! Even now she tries to control the things I do with my kids and it makes me nuts! But I have to realize that this is the way she is, this is the reason I left, and this will NEVER CHANGE!

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Rational

I’ve found that in dealing with the “x” that nothing is rational, nothing is easy, and nothing is resolved…EVER!

I have to carry full coverage insurance for my kids and the ex made a statement that she is not going to take them- it is up to me to take them now!! WTF??!!!

Just because I carry them now does not mean that her responsibliity ends- it is a joint effort!

I have come to the realization of many things and a powerful phrase that haunts me every day is, ” Expect the unexpected…and Believe the Unbelievable” !!

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My money and my ex are together

I hear a lot of common issues regarding ex-wives and how they don’t use the money for the children. I have argued in court about wanting to have some of the money go towards college, and to make sure it is used for clothing, and the childrens needs.

The court states that she must use it for the children. BUT here is the small print:

-Can be used for HOUSING- she can buy a big expensive house and spend all of the money a month; this is OK.
-Can be used for TRANSPORTATION- my ex has 2 cars, a new mustang and a truck; this is OK.
-Can be used for bills- my ex pays for her boyfriends bills with my money; this is OK.
-Can be used for clothing- my ex takes my kids to a used clothing store and spends $2 a shirt and tells them that she doesn’t have any money; this is OK.

My ex is always telling my kids that she is broke and has NO money. They ask her to buy them things and she gets mad, threating the kids, even stating that it is none of their business! When in fact this is TOTALLY their business! I pay a TON a month for my kids and they don’t see much of it.

The courts will NOT enforce the issue of making her show receipts, or make her put some away for college!

This is total crap and my ex is abusing the system. Where does this stop? How is this allowed legally to continue????!!

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There is never enough

So I was working up in an area at my work - there were these 2 ladies talking rather loud so it was not possible to ignore them…

One was telling the other about her ex husband and how she found out he is making more money.
The other lady advised her of several organizations to assist with obtaining persons to contact to make sure he pays more for child support.

This went on for some time- then the one lady told the other that she “deserves” that money. She said that she was married, had kids and now she is entitled to “all the money”!

So this is what they think is “due” to them!!! I finally heard it for myself!!! I about fell out of my chair when I heard this! I wanted to go up to them and give them a few choice words. But I could tell my face was turning red and I cannot hide my emotions- they would have known that I dissprove of their sneaky, cheating, under-handed, greedy ways!

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